My husband left to work in another state.........?

You stay right where you are in the job you are in and create a peaceful and financially secure life for your children and yourself. Let the guy calm down and come to his senses. It will be good for him to be on his own for a bit. You just continue to make an orderly life for yourself and your boys. When he calms down and can act rationally, you can consider a visit with the boys or he can come home for a visit. Meanwhile, sit tight and let him come to his senses. If you race out there you'll just get more of the same verbal abuse and insane jealousy. Stay cool. Moving would be the wrong thing to do.